BE THE CHANGE MENTAL HEALTH AND SEX THERAPY BLOG

Let’s face it, sometimes we just don’t feel sexy. It’s easy to fall into this rut when we become complacent in life, with our relationships, children, school, work etc. When you don’t think about it, it’s easy for it to no longer become a priority and it gets pushed to the wayside, until one day you look in the mirror and wonder “How did I get here?”. It’s ok, you are not alone this is a normal part of life. HOWEVER everybody has a sexy personality deep inside us. Our sexuali

6/29/18 UPDATED: The song actually is not about a vibrator (bummer I know) BUT imagine if it was? SO…. You may or may not have heard (the rumors) that our beloved “Electric Slide” originally entitled “Electric Boogie” by songwriter Neville “Bunny Wailer” Livingstone was actually about a Vibrator. It turns out it was that….just a rumor However, not many people couldn’t see the correlation between the lyrics and the song really being about a vibrator regardless…….until now! If

Raise your hand, or nod your head if you have used lube, or are open to using lube.  Lubricant (lube) is a product use to assist or enhance a sexual experience by adding extra “wetness” to the genitals. If you know me ( you probably don’t) then you know I am a huge advocate for lube. Unfortunately it wasn’t until I became more comfortable in my own sexuality that I learned it was ok to use lube. So I want to share with you something I wish was taught to me at a younger age. T

Relearn Your Body Take the time to learn what makes you feel good, mentality, emotionally, physically and sexually. If you are not a skin hungry person that’s ok, and if you need to be touched all the time that’s ok too. Take time to reconnect with yourself; however, that might look like to you. It’s ok to make love to yourself, as well (masturbate). That could be just what your body needed. Teach Your Body To Your Partner(s) After you have reconnected with yourself, then it

If you do not feel comfortable having this conversation, ask yourself why this may be difficult for you to address at this time? If you find that having this conversation may be more harmful than good, to you or your preteen/teen, maybe you can turn to another adult family member, or friend, you trust and your preteen/teen trust  to have the conversation with them for you. Children, at any age, want to feel validated by their parents. They care about what you think about them